I've been pondering the meaning of the phrase 'hand-out', this evening.
Are the goods delivered in the physical act of handing over an object or a spoken agreement, to someone in need?
Perhaps we ourselves are the goods being delivered, in this fine art of caring, sharing, and loving without regret or worry of recompense?
Might we deliver our very selves to the open heart of the beloved, a song of praise on our lips, falling to our knees in an ocean of roses, their tender perfume forever beckoning back?
Give up asking: "Shall I give this all away?" "What will I do when there is no more, and I am hungry; who will feed me then?" "Who is worthy of all that I have?"
When you have given up suffering these thoughts, then, and only then, will the kingdom be yours, forever.
The invitation is to leave it alone. To let life be. To know yourself as being lived. That is what is happening here. Life is alive as you, through your breath, through your being. Don't look for it elsewhere. It does you and undoes you, over and over again. You are not the doer. Stop claiming that you are, and your relentless despair of knowing you are not, will dissolve. The belief in the doer, in the future, in something rich and magical beyond this place, is what deadens you, and crushes your heart. The belief in something greater than this has held you captive, left you for dead. And yet you fear death. The only death you will ever know is this lifeless longing. Question these beliefs, awaken from them, and live it out loud. Then you will know yourself as boundless life, as freedom, and your body will age and die fully alive, without regret, endlessly beautiful.
Analisa Domenica is a naturalist minister and mentor, in private practice as a Doula for living and dying. She offers private mentoring sessions, end-of-life preparation & transition support, bereavement, home death, funeral, and natural burial guidance, and laying-on-of-hands for comfort care and pain release. Analisa joyfully celebrates weddings and memorials, according to your faith or secular tradition. She is available to private clients, small groups, and for public education. Find out more about her by clicking here.
'Li' lives and works in Mill Spring, NC, a stone or two's throw from Asheville, NC and Greenville/Spartanburg, SC. She also works globally via phone and zoom. You may reach her by phone at 828.429.0096 or write to her by clicking here.