It is not enough to say "you are not your suffering". Not enough to say "there is no one there". It is pointless to say "all is illusion", "life is impermanence", "there is no-one and nothing to fear".
Anyone can say these things and doubtless, will. If you seek long enough, you will meet someone who will say these things to you.
When we meet a beloved laying in the road, injured, broken-limbed, and bleeding, do we look down and ask: "who is this one who has fallen and cannot stand, this one who is dying"?
There is no need to speak carelessly, in the name of LOVE.
LOVE knows no awareness of encouraging illusion or delusion. LOVE has no concern for the language of keeping a broken one on track.
LOVE brings bandages and balm, tending the brokenness with active hands of mercy for what is here now. LOVE knows that all is always already blessed.
Bring it. All awaits you here.
The invitation is to leave it alone. To let life be. To know yourself as being lived. That is what is happening here. Life is alive as you, through your breath, through your being. Don't look for it elsewhere. It does you and undoes you, over and over again. You are not the doer. Stop claiming that you are, and your relentless despair of knowing you are not, will dissolve. The belief in the doer, in the future, in something rich and magical beyond this place, is what deadens you, and crushes your heart. The belief in something greater than this has held you captive, left you for dead. And yet you fear death. The only death you will ever know is this lifeless longing. Question these beliefs, awaken from them, and live it out loud. Then you will know yourself as boundless life, as freedom, and your body will age and die fully alive, without regret, endlessly beautiful.
Analisa Domenica is a naturalist minister and mentor, in private practice as a Doula for living and dying. She offers private mentoring sessions, end-of-life preparation & transition support, bereavement, home death, funeral, and natural burial guidance, and laying-on-of-hands for comfort care and pain release. Analisa joyfully celebrates weddings and memorials, according to your faith or secular tradition. She is available to private clients, small groups, and for public education. Find out more about her by clicking here.
'Li' lives and works in Mill Spring, NC, a stone or two's throw from Asheville, NC and Greenville/Spartanburg, SC. She also works globally via phone and zoom. You may reach her by phone at 828.429.0096 or write to her by clicking here.